“In my opinion, love is the greatest feeling one can receive from the person they cherish. To me, it is when you study hard so that you can grant your parents’ dream retirement, when you look after someone when they are sick, when you are worried if they have already eaten, when you feel butterflies on your stomach when someone is around and other simple things that make someone feel special.
I have a positive viewpoint when it comes to love, but what I don’t seem to understand is why some people are afraid to do so? Why are they afraid to love if it is the greatest feeling of all? Why do they act cold and push people away from them? Why do they stay in their comfort zone as if it was the most comfortable place in the world? And why do some people have philophobia? Philophobia is when a person is afraid to love or have emotional attachment. It is when you over think of the consequences that might happen when you start to like someone; but why? Is it really more painful than rewarding?
To the bitter one’s, they acquire agliophobia. It is the fear of being hurt; being hurt from this little thing called love. They experienced emotional stress from their past relationships that they prefer to stay single. Well I cannot blame them, for as they say, “you are lucky if it’s true love but it hurts like hell if it’s not”. These are the ones who are good at “hugot” lines like, “Nah—it’s not a big deal, I’m just having an emotional breakdown. Don’t mind me”. They express their pain through indirect words that may contain different meanings. They express the pain through words hoping one day, the painful feeling would go away.
And the most famous one is the fear of rejection or getting rejected by someone you love. It doesn’t have a label as a phobia but most of men have experienced this while courting. The feeling where you get all nervous and sweaty palms; when you stutter in your sentences; when your mind suddenly goes blank; and when they give you that cute smile then you just faint (adding a bit of exaggeration :D)
Now is love really that bad? I guess not. It must really be painful if you love more or love less, but isn’t that the process? Once you learn from the pain, you start to understand the true meaning of love. You start to give it more importance. You start to realise that you are willing to go all odds just for that one special someone. Love may be painful, but I promise, it’s worth it.”
Avoidance of affection,
Neglecting to be drained again.
Failure of last love,
Trauma of the heart-break,
All residing inside the heart,
May this phobia grow deep and lame?
Let it fly away,
From your pity mind,
Once hurt by someone,
Will not let you again fall in love with pain.
Keep up hope,
Keep welcoming love and smiles,
It might fail twice-trice,
But your life has a happy endings.
Giving life, again a chance,
To cherish and feel that love is just hurt-less,
Let yourself get proved wrong,
By living happily ever after in love with happiness.