Mothers hold their children’s hands for a short while, but their hearts forever.

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A mother is amazingly selfless and she dedicates her life to her children and creates numerous ways to reassure them that they mean so much to her. Yet her labour sometimes seems to go unnoticed.

A mother endures ALL! At birth, she learns to balance out the pain of labour with the joy of beholding a new-born.. And from that moment on-ward, she carries the worries of her child, even when the child feels they’re grown up, a mother masks her fears knowing how cruel the world can be yet prepares her child for the challenges of life. It’s very hard to watch her child struggle through the lessons of life. Yet, she labours on for her child. And her only joy is the success of that child. A Mother is a person with a mission from above, and imparts her children with the image of God’s love

A good mother loves fiercely but ultimately brings up her children to thrive without her – Erin Kelly.

No matter what situation you find yourself… Your Mother is ALWAYS with you!

She is the whisper of the leaves heard as you walk down the street. She is the flowers you pick. She is the cool hand on your brows when you are not feeling good. She is the air that you breathe-in on a cold winter morning. She is the water sound that lulls you to sleep and the colours of a rainbow. Your Mother lives in your laughter and is crystallised in every teardrop.

A mother shows every emotion … … … joy, sadness, fear, excitement, jealousy, love, hate, anger, helplessness,  sorrow, happiness… and all the while, hoping and praying you will only know the good feelings in life. She is your first home, and the map you follow with every step you take. She is your first love, your first friend, even your first enemy, but nothing on earth can separate you. Not time, not space… nor DEATH!

A mother’s arms are made of tenderness and children sleep soundly in them – Victor Hugo

Words cannot describe how much I appreciate you. For loving me unconditionally, for your intelligence, sense of humour, strength, empathy, protection, faith and immeasurable patience.

For the discipline, for being there during the hard times that drew us closer, for being my first love and best friend; for sticking around even when I became stubborn and blatantly ignored your instructions. For being my rock during tough life decisions, and new chapters.

For being a shoulder to lean on and for carrying me through when it felt like it was virtually impossible to go on. For being my confidant. For being the best teacher anyone can ever ask for, for the little things, for being able to find a balance between being a friend and a MOTHER…Thank You!!!

I hope you feel so loved and celebrated this Mother’s Day. And no matter what situation you find yourself in, please understand that you are doing more than enough, and you are loved and well appreciated…

…And to those that their mothers aren’t with us anymore, be rest assured that wherever she is, she’s always watching over you, no matter what you go through, she’s right there with you.

The presence of a mother never leaves her children no matter how far apart they are!

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Finding True Happiness

True happiness, is an inner quality. It is a state of mind. If your mind is at peace, you are happy. If your mind is at peace, but you have nothing else, you can be happy. If you have everything the world can give (pleasure, possessions, power) but lack peace of mind, you can never be happy. – Dada Vaswani

As we grow older we’ll realise that true happiness is NOT found in how much money we have or how many degrees you’ve acquired or how big your house is or how fancy your car is. But soon we’ll get to know that finding peace and joy and calmness in life is the most important thing.

True Happiness; if you ever find yourself believing that you have to find someone or get something in order to bring you happiness, then you are counting on external factors for your happiness. However, happiness can only exist within you. You are the only person who can bring yourself true happiness. Although other people or things could bring you some joy, but you will notice it’s all temporal… They aren’t happiness!

The happiness that you can always control and have forever is the happiness that you develop within yourself. No-one can take away your happiness when you are in control of it. The only time anyone can take away your happiness is when you allow them.

There is only one person who could ever make you happy, and that person is YOU. – David Burns

Do not risk your happiness by relying on others for it, once you rely on another person to make you happy then, you automatically give them the power to toy with your happiness. This means your happiness could be gone in a flash of a second because this person could decide to walk out of your life at any given time and believe me, there would be absolutely nothing you can do about it because you do NOT have control over them.

According to the theory of happiness, 75% of true happiness is based on your strength, courage, and confidence, and how well you treat yourself, and 25% is from external factors such as material things and other people.

Find what you’re passionate about and make it a goal in your life. Do you know what your gifts are? Everyone has one or several. The happiest people are those who are living out their passions using their God-given talents to make a difference. You have a purpose. If you are yet to discover it, don’t stop searching. Find a place where you can thrive. Relive the days of your youth if you have to, but by all means, discover your passion and live your life to the fullest.

You don’t smile because you have it all, you smile because you have what you need. True happiness is not wanting to live out the life of others, but making the most of your own. Being happy is knowing that life doesn’t last forever and a happier life is always a better one.

When you develop, build, and keep your happiness within yourself, then it does not matter what happen or how other people treat you, no-one and nothing can take your happiness away from you.

La vita è bella

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It’s so easy to forget how amazing the gift of life is. Our lives are nothing but a cosmic blink. Even our superficially all-encompassing world is just a tiny blue dot rotating around a galaxy of 200-400 billion stars, which itself is just one galaxy amongst billions of others. Yet for one brief moment, we get to experience the wonders of existence and consciousness.

Once you have started seeing the beauty of life, ugliness starts disappearing. If you start looking at life with joy, sadness starts disappearing. You cannot have heaven and hell together, you can have only one. And… It is your choice. – Osho

Our brains are wired to project our thoughts into reality… this happens subconsciously – if you’re always sceptical and always waiting for things to go wrong, then your life will reflect that. And… Yes, I do understand that sometimes it’s not always easy to stay strong and positive in certain situations as life can be difficult. But always learn to control your thoughts because having a positive outlook on life will bring joy and provide you with inspirations when you least expect it.

Life is like a camera, so focus on what’s important, capture the good times, develop from the negatives, and if things do not turn out right, take another shot.

I’m Sorry – The Sincerity Of An Apology.

 

Sincere apologies are for those that make them, not for those to whom they are made. – Greg LeMond

Let’s be realistic, a lot of us would not go far in life without having to render a few apologies along the way. Though a few people would see rendering an apology as a sign of weakness, others may recognise it as an easy way to smoothen out a difficult situation.

Apologies are one of those things we’re rarely formally taught how to do well. We mostly just muddle through them, mimicking the behaviours we’ve seen in others, and feeling like we just want to get it over and done with. However, taking a few moments to really understand the value of a sincere apology can make your apology far more effective and more likely to be accepted.

An apology is the basic reaction to any mistake.

My younger self didn’t understand the complexities of human pride and self-righteousness, but my older self does. Through the years I have seen family members refusing to talk to each other for years after an argument just because neither side wants to be the first to let go of their pride and “break down and apologise.” Because they believe apologising is a sign of weakness.

But who decided rendering an apology was a sign of weakness?

Nobody is perfect, and we all will do something to hurt another person at some point in our lives. The difference, however, lies with acknowledging that we have done something wrong. This was hard for me to grasp, because I was taught that an apology should be an automatic response.

It took me a long time to realise what it meant to say “I’m sorry” from the heart. Apologising just for the sake of apologising is meaningless. We cannot genuinely apologise if we can’t admit to ourselves that we made a mistake.

This is where humility comes in. Can we look at ourselves in the mirror and say that it was at least partly our fault? Can we take that responsibility?

Placing the blame on someone else is easy. Making excuses and skirting the subject is easy. Assuming the full weight of blame on our own shoulders, however, is very hard.

Learning to apologise is the first and most important step in the healing process. Not only does it show the recipient that you acknowledge their right to feel hurt, but it opens the way to forgiveness.

It seems so silly, really. I mean, it’s only two tiny words. How can something so small be so powerful?

Well, there have been several scientific studies on the power of apologising, which have demonstrated that when the victim receives an apology from his offender, he/she develops empathy toward that person, which later develops more quickly into forgiveness.

This is due to the fact that when we receive an apology, we feel that our offender recognises our pain and is willing to help us heal.

In Addition, timing is an important aspect to keep in mind, i say this, because sometimes the other person might not be ready to accept your apology. Sometimes we need to allow time to heal the wounds a little bit before we come forward to apologise.

An apology will certainly not undo what has been done, but it can help ease the pain and tension of the aftermath. It gives hope for rebuilding, and puts value on the relationship rather than the individual’s pride.

Sometimes people don’t even realise the hurt they are creating around them by failing to take responsibility for their actions. Maybe it’s you, maybe it’s someone you know, but everyone knows someone who has suffered from this at some point.

It costs absolutely NOTHING to render a sincere Apology.

A lot of times those two simple words (Im Sorry) are worth more than a lifetime of excuses and explanations. im-sorry

Page 366 Out Of 366!

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Finally we’re here!!! the end of 2016 – Day 366 out of 366! we made it, and its all thanks to the most high God.

My Apologies – I have been MIA for a few months and I really do not have much excuses but I have just had a lot going on and you know sometimes multitasking can be a little hard. – 2017 will be different even if I have to post in the middle of the night, I will do just that (I do have a lot to share with you)!

Gratitude – When I started this blog, I didn’t really believe in my self as much as I should. But one good friend of mine kept pushing me with her words of encouragement… And so it began! Ever since then, the amount of calls, messages, and comments I have received concerning this blog (even during the periods I was MIA); are overwhelming and for this I say thank you.

2016 has by far been one of my best years so far. and you my reader in some way contributed to my year. Thank You All So Much!

Cheers To A Wonderful and Breath-taking 2017!

Happy New Year In Advance!

 

Agliophobia.

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“In my opinion, love is the greatest feeling one can receive from the person they cherish. To me, it is when you study hard so that you can grant your parents’ dream retirement, when you look after someone when they are sick, when you are worried if they have already eaten, when you feel butterflies on your stomach when someone is around and other simple things that make someone feel special.

I have a positive viewpoint when it comes to love, but what I don’t seem to understand is why some people are afraid to do so? Why are they afraid to love if it is the greatest feeling of all? Why do they act cold and push people away from them? Why do they stay in their comfort zone as if it was the most comfortable place in the world? And why do some people have philophobia? Philophobia is when a person is afraid to love or have emotional attachment. It is when you over think of the consequences that might happen when you start to like someone; but why? Is it really more painful than rewarding?

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To the bitter one’s, they acquire agliophobia. It is the fear of being hurt; being hurt from this little thing called love. They experienced emotional stress from their past relationships that they prefer to stay single. Well I cannot blame them, for as they say, “you are lucky if it’s true love but it hurts like hell if it’s not”. These are the ones who are good at “hugot” lines like, “Nah—it’s not a big deal, I’m just having an emotional breakdown. Don’t mind me”. They express their pain through indirect words that may contain different meanings. They express the pain through words hoping one day, the painful feeling would go away.

And the most famous one is the fear of rejection or getting rejected by someone you love. It doesn’t have a label as a phobia but most of men have experienced this while courting. The feeling where you get all nervous and sweaty palms; when you stutter in your sentences; when your mind suddenly goes blank; and when they give you that cute smile then you just faint  (adding a bit of exaggeration :D)agliphobia2

Now is love really that bad? I guess not. It must really be painful if you love more or love less, but isn’t that the process? Once you learn from the pain, you start to understand the true meaning of love. You start to give it more importance. You start to realise that you are willing to go all odds just for that one special someone. Love may be painful, but I promise, it’s worth it.”

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Avoidance of affection,

Neglecting to be drained again.

Failure of last love,

Trauma of the heart-break,

All residing inside the heart,

May this phobia grow deep and lame?

Let it fly away,

From your pity mind,

Once hurt by someone,

Will not let you again fall in love with pain.

Keep up hope,

Keep welcoming love and smiles,

It might fail twice-trice,

But your life has a happy endings.

Giving life, again a chance,

To cherish and feel that love is just hurt-less,

Let yourself get proved wrong,

By living happily ever after in love with happiness.

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Sources: Philaphobia, Agliophobia, and Love and Philophobia or Agliophobia???

Philophobia

The fear of emotional attachment; fear of being, or falling in love…

Medical science defines philophobia as an abnormal, unwarranted and persistent fear of falling in love. Its name comes from two Greek roots, “philo” meaning love and “phobia” meaning fear of. This fear of love isn’t merely a distressing emotional condition; it can result in actual physical symptoms, and may even heighten a person’s alienation from family, friends, co-workers and neighbours.

Every human relationship requires a certain amount of emotional involvement, but people who suffer from philophobia are often unable to make this connection. Philophobics may start by avoiding close contact with members of the opposite sex, and then become so sensitized to emotional reactions that they begin to avoid all people.

In addition, philophobia produces a distinct set of physical symptoms. Philophobia symptoms can range from nervousness or restlessness in the presence of the opposite sex, to feelings of absolute dread at the prospect of meeting someone. In its most extreme cases, philophobia can cause full-blown panic attacks: sweating, irregular heartbeat, shortness of breath, nausea and an intense need to escape from the presence of the potential lover.

As with all phobias, psychiatrists and psychologists aren’t in 100% agreement on what sets off philophobia. Sometimes a person dwells on bitter memories of past relationships that didn’t go well or that ended badly, whether romantic or familial. Or the sufferer may have an intense fear of rejection and avoids relationships as a way to avoid the embarrassment of being refused by a potential lover. Others may have gone through an acrimonious divorce and be convinced that falling in love again will only lead to another painful divorce or breakup.

While these are examples of some of the experiences held in common by people who suffer from philophobia, no verified connection has been drawn between these intense episodes and the onset of the condition. What is known for sure is that people who go through bad romances or relationships are able to bounce back, while others find themselves trapped in a psychological situation that eventually keeps them separated from other people.

What causes such a disturbing mental condition? For some people, being in the throes of love means losing control of their emotions, something that terrifies them. In this instance, romantic love makes it impossible for them to maintain their emotional control, because their well-being relies on the responses of their partners.

Fortunately, people who suffer from philophobia can get treatment. Counselling, behavioural therapy, and medication have all been proven to be effective phobia treatments when used well. The patient and his or her therapist must together determine which therapies are right and in which combinations.

Wall Street

I live in wall street.
A beautiful street,
purposely built for the “bourgeoisie”.
I had named it wall street-
I know it has a name but I never really bothered- because of the high walls
demarcating it’s inhabitant from the world.
I once asked my mum if the architects were from Jericho,
that only explained why the walls were so high.

Each time I walk or drive down the street.
I hear faceless voices behind the walls-
tiny whispers, others loud-
some in form of tears and others shout-
I think I also hear some like children.
But then again I can’t be sure…
I can’t see past the wall.

The other day my neighbour died,
I didn’t feel bad or pity.
I didn’t know -him or her-
I only knew the wall.
I’ve saved my grief for the day a wall will collapse.
That was the only “person” I truly knew on wall street.

Source: Wall Street

Life’s TOO Short…

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Been a while i blogged and I really don’t have much to say today… just a tiny piece of advice for ya’ll.

I didn’t blog in the month of august at all, now this happened because I lost a friend at the beginning of the month …And I was completely destabilised.

Those who know me personally, are aware that ‘Month to Remember’ was my theme for the month of august… The word REMEMBER was meant to be in a positive way. But sadly I lost a friend, a friend like a Brother! We hadn’t spoken in a while… I guess I got too carried away with the not so important things in life forgetting the more important aspect of life (cherishing those that truly matter to you).

Few days before i heard of his death, I stumbled across his picture on one of my social networks and in my head I was like, “woow been a while I’ve seen this guy, let me say hello”. Seconds later, something came up, then I said to myself, I’ll pop back later and talk to him! That ‘LATER’ never came. Next time I heard of him, death had taken him away.

Now this same thing happened to me two years ago (a friend sent me a message, I’m guessing he probably just wanted to check up on me), but I responded with, “hey im so sorry, i cant talk right now, buzz you when im free”. Few months later he died. Now why on earth didn’t I learn from this? i had to repeat the same silly mistake, ignoring what truly matters then filled with regrets later.

Learn from my mistakes…

Do not allow the pursuit of possessions to become greater priorities than your relationship with those that truly matter. Make time for them because when God decides that he wants them back, there’s absolutely nothing you can do to stop them from leaving.

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Continue to rest in peace Seth.

 

 

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